Just don't keep that wall of yours up too high. Among other mistakes I made when my W and I were both actively engaged in making our R work (pre-DB) was subconsciously doing what you realize you are doing -- putting up a wall and keeping back part of myself so as not to get hurt again. Sort of became a self-fulfilling prophesy for me.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
