Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW 3

[Heimlich]

This is a boundary: "I will not keep the door open on my M if I learn W sleeps with OM."

Sure, you can share that boundary with W.

OK, I've got that, and that's what I was trying to say. Let me ask you this, because it's something about my W and the way that she's been acting that genuinely confuses me.

I'll preface this by saying I realize she may be keeping quiet so as not to hurt my feelings any more than she has.

She already knows you don't want her f*cking some other guy. So that isn't new info. But, it does tell her precisely what to do if you won't get the h*ll out of her sh*t and give her the space she needs. So, the next time she wants more space, you will have told her exactly what to do to get it: go f*ck OM and let you find out.

She knows this. She's known this for months, going back to pre-DB days earlier this year when we were both invested in this M. If she wanted me to just go away, that's all she has to do. She's told me to let her go (and in the last two days I really feel that I have). She knows we need each other for the kids and that I'm not going to keep them from her. Of course, prior to signing a mediation, maybe she just didn't want to say anything without legal protection. Actually, I probably just answered my own question, she was most likely scared that I would do something to try to take the girls from her.

Well, I guess I'll have to do some thinking on what my boundary is then.

BD