Wow! thanks so much everyone. I have talked to a lawyer focused on collaborative family law which is a cross between mediation and "normal" family law. It's defined as "a dignified, cooperative approach to negotiating and settling the issues arising from a family separation without going to court. Separated spouses, with the assistance of specially trained family law lawyers, negotiate their issues, as they define them, in a controlled, safe, and respectful setting." I know some states in the US have it as well. I decided last night to let him lead this decision as I feel if I decide on legal separation then I am making the decision to separate which I do not want. I won't sell the house or anything without a legal agreement though as I think that would be wrong for DD. I can not thank all of you enough for your words and opinions. I keep praying but it is so hard to keep the hope up yet I just can't give up. Thinking of all of you. God bless
