It seems kind of silly when I lay it out: Don't talk to OW in bed? Don't talk to OW while you're at home, period? Don't talk to OW when we're both at home? Don't talk to OW after 10 pm? Don't let me catch you talking to OW at home? Does texting count? I obviously have a lot more thinking to do.
Puddle,
As everyone has, rightfully, banged on me today, let me throw this at you: what advice would you give someone else if you saw this elsewhere.
I think a fair boundary would be that he not speak to her in front of you, but even then, bringing it up might be worse than just ignoring it as much as you can.
As everyone has said to me, he's going to talk to OW. There's nothing you can really do to stop it. You have to decide if your boundary is I can't do this if you're seeing someone else. If you can continue to focus on your M through DBing, then bringing it up probably isn't a good idea.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
