Gwyn I see an IC, but I'm even embarrassed to talk to him about it. Any IC/MC/ST you pay is your employee. He/she is Your, and I stress "YOUR" advisor/mentor. You are not his/her client.
If you can’t/won’t talk about something, that is your responsibility. If they don't know what to say or don't have sound advice, that is their problem and you need to see a different IC.
Going to an IC/MC is like hiring a tutor. If you don't learn, either you are not doing the assignments/homework, or there are poor instructions are being delivered.
A couple of the professors at college said they quit reading fiction because real life has situations that are more severe and varied than anything they have ever read in a fiction publication.
Gwyn, I can’t imagine an IC that hasn’t heard things a 100 times more serious than your problems.
For starters, if you are concerned about what to bring up in IC, post some of those things here. You can refine the questions with some input from the forum participants. Then if you want to, talk about them with the IC.
I worked in a group home for delinquent boys. I head about animal sacrifices, animal cruelty, relatives shooting/knifing one another, wild car chases, so many drunk stories it borders on “how dumb can people get,” stealing things and drugs, and other irresponsible/cruel behaviors, I wondered why these people are still alive.
Your IC probably heard her/his share of embarrassing events and is past judging someone for what they think or what has happened to you or someone else.
It’s their job (and that is why you hired them) to help you get to a more stable/comfortable place in “YOUR” life.
