How do you convince someone who has known nothing but pain and loss all their life and has come to realize that no one can be trusted, that every time they do trust someone, they get hurt?
I believe when it comes to differentiation the person you need to trust is yourself. The way you come to trust yourself is by taking care of yourself. Because of my FOO issues, I need to concentrate on mothering myself in order to maintain differentiation. So now instead of a make-believe lover, Hank, I have a make-believe mother, Gloria. Pretty much she is a cross between Goldie Hawn and Cokie Roberts. My life will be great if I follow her advice.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
