My ride on the Roller Coaster called WAW Hell

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Thanks Matt,
I am going to try to respond with ILY. Oddly enough the times that she has said it I was so caught off guard that I didn't really relaize it until the moment passed. (I quit listening/hoping for it I guess)

As far as S. I did speak with her and her position was that she did not want to invest in things w W until she knew that it was worth her trouble (IE: we were getting back together). I explained to her that I understood how she felt and that she had every right to feel that way. (anyone else DB'ng their family ) I also told her that she needed to understand that W had been trying lately and that even if we do fix this it will take a long time. It might take months or years before this is settled so she won't be able to sit on the sidelines and not "invest" anything until then.

A little later, once again my Mom has proven to be the rock of the family. She called me yesterday evening to discuss what my plans were regarding that weekend. While talking she told me that she had done some thinking, and realilzed that she had been angry about the sitch earlier. She had come to the conclusion that she felt that W was also hurting and to exclude her from this would be cruel. W and my Father were very close, probably closer than W is with either her father or step-father. She also realizes that for the family to turn their back on her right now would only push W further by giving her the justification that they didn't want her around so why should she try. She said "We need to love her like she is even with the flaws and hopefully that will help her realize what she has done,ad what she will be leaving. Hopefully that recognition will show her the value of family and allow her to truly recommit".
Mom offered to call S and talk to her and try to explain this line of thought. I will give her the chance before I say anything to W.