Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

Some men may get their ego bruised, but that's just selfish.

the Adam&Eve website has reviews from customers (kinda like amazon does; stars w/comments) and I was really (pleasantly) surprised at how many *guys* bought the products for their SO and then wrote glowing reviews about watching their women have fun.

I'm not sure what my H would think; I mean, we had a couple very simple toys that were used maybe a few times. The few times they were incorporated it seemed awkward. (Probably why it was only a few times.) I think that since he was good at making sure I finished, there didn't seem to be a need to get over any awkwardness.

You know, I always thought it was *him* that didn't like things that were out of the ordinary. (I'm thinking of the toys right now.) I always thought I was more adventurous than him. BUT, I wonder if that was because I projected that idea on him ("he doesn't like different things") and then was inhibited because I was assuming he wasn't enjoying himself. And I am sure, if I was kind of reserved and shy, he probably wasn't enjoying himself as much as he could have if I would have not given a hoot what his 'thoughts' were.

Hmmm...believe it or not, I think this is actually something important. Not specifically to our sex life; but more to the point about intimacy. Why didn't I feel free enough to just enjoy what I wanted to enjoy? Why did I inhibit myself and second guess what he wanted? Not that I was denied enjoyment, but I would "judge" whether I thought he was having a good "enough" time and if I didn't think he was, I would put the kibosh on it. Aha- I can summarize it in one sentence "I feel guilty when I am having more fun than the other person; especially if I think it's at the expense of the other person." Is that true with all women?