Going to try one more time....

[COG]

Ali,

"I AM NOT GOING TO KILL YOU.... IT IS THAT GARBAGE IN YOUR SYSTEM THAT IS GOING TO KILL YOU. I WILL NOT ALLOW YOU TO BLAME ME ANYMORE FOR SOMETHING YOU ARE DOING TO YOURSELF. IF AND WHEN YOU DIE IT WILL NOT BE B/C OF ME BUT B/C OF ALL THAT SH*T YOU PUT IN YOU." " THAT IS WHAT IS GIVING YOU SO MUCH F***ING ANXIETY AND PROBLEMS NOT ME." " YOU JUST PRETEND NOT TO SEE IT!!!!"

Well said, well done. When he interacts with you he needs to interact with reality and that's just what you are right now. Courageous, strong, and REAL!

( he was angry cause must have been over a week ago when he had company. Someone stole over half my CD/DVD collection.

Oh he hangs out with a real classy group of people does'nt he? That's something you could possible remind him about at some future reality lesson.

I think it's a real positive thing that he's been sober for a week now. At least it shows that he may be recognizing that he has a real problem. This might be a good time to produce some brochures on rehab clinics or AA meetings.

ONE DAY HE CAN LOOK BACK AND SAY MY GOD SHE SAVED MY LIFE

Well I would'nt hold my breath if I were you Ali. However, you're doing real well with the tough love, and that's what they need most, not co-dependency.

Keep up the good work!

Love,

COG