You waste no time in asking the difficult questions. Who can really define love? Poets and philosophers have filled many pages trying to figure this one out. One definition that's simple and helpful to me is that love has 3 components: passion, intimacy ( closeness... not the sexual kind), and commitment. Intimacy and commitment without the passion in this model is considered friendship. Since the passion component is supposed to be there on some level in marriage, its absence creates resentment and interferes with the friendship aspect ( this is the state that most of the posters here are in).
