Thirdly, I have a bunch of personal and work goals I want to achieve in the next 12 months or so

Have you been verbalizing these and also engaging in actionable demonstations recently? (congruence) If so then that is going to have a lot more to do with her recent changes then the other stuff you think is causing it.
You can have as many goals as you want but the primary ones are Health, Wealth, and R's. All goals are pretty much subcategories of these. IMExperience, you can only focus on 2 of these primary at a time. Its like the adage-- fast, cheap, and quality. Pick 2. When you see a person start focusing on a new goal, be assured, something is going to be less important.

See, my wife knows what I need
Yep she sure does. Its irrelevant. Everyone does what they need for their own reasons. If her actions are changing, she is not doing it for you. Once you accept that, being selfish is no longer a dirty word. Once you accept that, good things come to you.


but she is *very* self conscious of the symptoms of what she does have - one of which is abnormal/heavy bleeding. And right now, this is preventing her from sex.
How do you react when she is self conscious?

I honestly thought that acts of service did it for her, but recently I've switched to pulling out all kinds of words of affirmation. I think it might be working
LL are constantly changing. There is no final answer on what someone wants or needs. An excess of anything becomes unappreciated. If you have 5 tubes of toothpaste in the cabinet, do you worry about toothpaste? Do you try to extract every last drop of it when you get close to the bottom, or do you just chuck it and grab a new one?
I think LL are easily misinterpreted and misapplied. A lot of people know QT is quality time, yet their actions demonstrate they are giving quantity time. Anyone who says QT/AOS/WOA/GG/ABCDEFG is a prerequisite to sex is FOS. full of shtuff. or ignorant. Which is better than stupid, cause ignorance is curable. LOL.
If you attempt to use them to achieve a result, they will be seen as supplicating.


Mrs. Cac recently (as have many others) mentioned being horny around the time she ovulates and that all the other R stuff becomes insignificant.
One thing I see men do is play into the fact that its OK for the woman to be horny based on her hormones, but allow the woman to dictate that its not OK for the man to be. [headscratch] It borders on emotional abuse, the tactics that women take to create that status quo.
Your allowing someone else to dictate to you -YOUR FEELINGS.... WHY???? If you think you are an unfeeling brutish animal that needs to be trained and handled by the superiority of the emotion police-- then I understand. Ive found calmly stating
"your feelings are not more important then mine" can quickly bring things back to a more even keel.

heading down to france.... must be a brit.
Ive been wondering ever since I saw your screen name...
Last time I surfed was on my honeymoon. If I never surf again, its O K . That morning, was that perfect. It was sunrise, flatasscalm outside the break, 5 foot tubes, 2 locals (robert frost- farmer with the greenthumb & jewelry maker, I remember you), a tigershark that gave us the onceover- twice, and a PI hottie in a white bikini hunting puka shells on the beach.

The reason I asked was to see if you were still getting out and about, and taking care of yourself.