Unfortunately our issues do not have to be relationship ending, but since I can not control her feelings, I try and do the next best thing.
My point is when things are bad, it appears even past experiences with that person are remembered in a different light. Again I think they (the ones who want out) are just validating their feelings and making themselves believe this has always been a problem. Sad, because despite her wanting gone, I remember the good times still.
GF, I believe the same thing that our issues do not have to be life ending that with alot of work and dedication on both of our parts that things could be worked out. All we need to do is want to make things better and start always putting one another's happiness first that we could re-build what we had. I just think because our problems were going on for some time, an the OW, and him claiming to have no love for me at all prevents him from trying to see things in a different light.
I know he doesn't appear to be completely happy now at least when he is around me that is. I know that he does miss the kids and I can see a softness come over him when our D hugs and kisses him. He also is not going to be in an easy financial sitch with the child support, our mortgage payment and possibly buying me out. Yes they think the divorce is the answer to an unhappy sitch in the M but it just creates a whole different set of problems and unhappiness. I just pray every day that someday soon that he will come to this realization on his own and not no 13 years down the road and say Yeah, I regret the decisions I made way back then to just run.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
