I know you are hurt and confused as well, but I wonder what would happen if you took steps to embrace the man he is today, giving him time to work through the sexual aspects.
I've done that. We actually had a "second" honeymoon after I found out. No problem then so why now?
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has he been drinking?
No.
He told me this past weekend that he's happier now than he has ever been. I also told him this past weekend that I'm still very sad about our M and he offered to let me go so I can heal. I'm not sure that's what I want but sometimes I think that may be easier.
For the last two evenings, he has come home so quiet and reserved as if he has the weight of the world on his shoulders. I asked him if there is something he wants to talk about and he said no, do you? He always does that - turns it around on me. I try to keep a happy outlook, and I'm trying very hard to keep positive but it's hard with the emotions that I'm going through and now I feel responsible for his emotions. I'm not berating him or acting like I'm leaving him, but he does know how I feel yet I don't bring it into our relationship.
Okay, so now I live with the A pain, now I live with someone depressed, now I live with someone who apparently doesn't seem to think sex is a priority, can anyone tell me what's left? Can someone define "love" for me? I don't think I really know what love is, not the love between husband and wife. I thought sex was an affirmation of love, yet I think he sees it as his duty. When I say to him, I'm horny, he says to me "do you need me to "do you" which means oral sex. No intimacy, just getting me off. I miss my old boyfriend. After we married, which is only been 5 years, he changed and I'm sure I did my share of change, which leads me to believe I have no idea what a normal marriage is. I need some help on this one please.
And, thank you so much for not making feel inhibited in my posts. I really need to talk about this stuff and I have no one to turn to with these problems. I see an IC, but I'm even embarrassed to talk to him about it.
