I have felt that fear; still do at times. When we first separated, I was convinced that divorce papers were going to arrive any day. I dreaded checking phone messages, going to the mail, even going home. I expected to find a note,message, or divorce papers. Well, that hasn't happened yet. I don't know your wife, obviously, but I would guess that if she says she wants some time to think, take some solace in that, hard as it is. It's agony to live thinking that "well, she didn't ask for a divorce today" but as long as she is saying she wants time to think, I would trust her until you have evidence to the contrary. I know I tended to assume the worst about every little word I got, or from things I see around the house. It's incredibly painful at first, and the hurt is still strong. Still, I've managed to be more "comfortable" if I dare say that, with the uncertainty. It's agony, but it seems to be where we are. The advice about getting on with new hobbies is really true. Don't sit around! Get out and do something, anything, when you move out. Some things will fail, but the key is to keep trying. Meet new people, reconnect with old friends you haven't seen or talked to in a while. I've come to believe that the universe has a way of holding us up when we need it, but we have to be willing to see the signs. Keep your eyes open. People are out there for you.
