Need Help w/Plan B Letter (LRT)

[mkultra]

First thing is that you need to control your anger. Sorry, but you must stay in control for the sake of your 8 year old. I read your sitch and it is typically like mine. I snooped too but what does that prove? Aha you are a cheating liar. yes, they are cheating liars! Wow, we proved it. Now what? They may never have remorse ever. And there is no way we can guilt them or reminisce them, or shake them out of denial. the bestthing is to stop all snooping, GAL, and take one of two paths, go dark, or wait with unconditional love, or maybe both.

A person having an affair is going to lie. yes. They want to protect their spouse or stay out of trouble. Pick your goals. If open communication, trust, and honesty is a goal you will have to find the strength to hear this cr$p.. BTW, you can cuss here but avoid saying WTF o her. It is very threatening to hear cuss ing mixed with angry emotions from a man. It is a double standard but I was very afraid when my H would say the F word in front of me and my kids and he weighs 20 lbs less than me!

You will be OK if you can sleep. Stay on the boards. Watch TV. Read a book. Do anything but call her or go into a negative spiral. We have all had these bombs. There are even folks with grandchilden who are going through this. It will get better. She is going psycho and your rage will send her more underground. Let her expose herself and be ready for her remorse or her apathy, either way. never expectthe truth. My dad philandered for over 20 years and has never apoligized or taken any accountability. He stilll acts liuke a super dad. Unfortunatley, I married a man I NEVER expected to cheat and he still claims living with his OW while we are married is justified because I kicked him out for his alleged drug use.