Just a quick note, Stop pushing your W. Not only will you not fix your M, you'll most likely doom it.
As hard as it is, step back, breath, do things for yourself. When you feel the need to talk to your W about how you feel and how great the R could be, hit yourself in the forehead with a 2x4.
Trust me, I didn't shut up about what I wanted plus I didn't realize how large a role I had played in the deterioration of my M. In part, those two things drove my W away. I haven't read all of your thread, but have you focused on your role in where you are? Until you begin to understand how your actions and behaviors affected how your W feels, you're going to have a hard time reconnecting with her. Is it hard that she doesn't want to work on the R. Hell yeah. Can you do it anyway, hell yeah.
So, not to be mean, but to be blunt -- shut up about the R and fixing it.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
