Went back and reread your last post. What is wrong with the car? Could you drop it off and get it later so you could work? Can you afford this? Is this your car? Are the cars joint titled or owe on?
Thought about the money thing. He sounds like he wants some money. Do not panic, but he may be thinking of a lawyer, maybe not. I know this strikes fear in your heart because I have been there. Or he is just thinking he wants money. Could you stop depositing your checks in there and let him pay the direct pays out of the joint? Leave it joint, just stop your deposit. Maybe open a free or cheap checking acct in your name only so you have it if you want to move money into it. You can always just move a little bit at a time to joint if you need it. Could you divide up some of the bills that are direct pay? Are you still seeing therapist together? This is something you could work on in there. I also would call the therapist and leave her a voice mail and say this is something you need to do in a session. They like that when you are proactive and then they are ready to help. You are doing so well. I had a month of no cash from H, like a 150 dollars for food. I swear he went nuts. Still mad I took 1500 our of our account. I still have it too, he brought that up at the courthouse. Can you believe it? He starves me out and is still mad. He did then divide his pay in half. But really. This is a control issue, for you too.
