DaveJ, go visit this site and read the page on detachment. I know you have been struggling with it as have I. But, for me the struggle with my mis-interpretation of the definition that applies to our situations.

http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm

“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED”
“You have to have a life to share a life with someone”
“When you stop resisting, you start learning”

M15yrs
Divorced 07/07