Klm, I know that in this state and Texas mirrors almost the same that I could not take one name off the joint checking account, I had to cancel it and open a new one in my name only. I am still using it, though I do have a new one at a new bank. My guess is that he can't get you off, only cancel it and it would also depend who opened the account.
I know they get really mean... it is hard to believe at times. I will help you sell the house. I am serious. I sold our first house with no realtor, bought this one and did all the negotiating as Mr. Happy as I call him, was gone to Ca for most of it working. I helped the kids that bought our house get a lawyer for not much ( I could not write the offer) and helped them get financing. I know a lot about it, and that older guy that has been taking me out, he owns a C21 realty and is a broker. I can ask him if something comes up. In fact tomorow he invited me to the realtors private showing of the Parade of Homes cocktail party/ dinner/tour of the couple of million dollar places the builders show. Free food and dreams... There is a lot of resources to tap into if you want to sell. You can get support here and probably through others. Think Selling your House for Dummies, I love those books!
I am guessing here, but I think that yours is not finding the alone life so much fun because he needs money to have fun. OR you! He has also been in that military mindset where they provide everything when he on active duty, like meals and whatever. I know a lot of military have trouble managing money. I was just at my friends to see her son who is home from the marines, officer, college grad and the money is all screwed up and he is 25! Hey, I heard like this from Mr. Happy, stay out of my life...so many times. That is what they want, no responsiblitys except themselves, selfish it is called.
About the money stuff let me think... if you do want to go to lawyer you should find a free consult for about a half an hour. Write out your questions, bring your financial stuff. The only thing I can think of is that you could go into court and get a temporary hearing if he did stop paying the mortgage, but that is a last resort type thing. Does the military have a employee assistance progam? Or your employment have one? They have a lot of resources and sometimes legal help. I am sure that the military has something that they do if a spouse stops paying the bills. Just thinking here...
This is so hurtful. I know how you feel. Here we are laying awake at night worrying how we are going to pay for all this house stuff and they are just plain angry and unhappy. I spent some time trying to figure out the tax stuff today as if we do this D before dec 31st it may impact our taxes. On my side remember my H took 26,000 out of the 401k, of which we owe 41.5% interest and penalties to the Irs. Really smart, it took a while to save that, although he pointed out repeatly that it is all his money, he earned it.... in a nasty voice. I mean right up to the half hour before we filed he is like this. I have appt with therapist tommorow. He tells me angry is an emotion and on my h's side still feels. All I have to do is read my journal or think about how he talks to me in that angry nasty voice and I swear I should just give this up. Hang in there, you are doing well. You can do this, just sit tight. Think about the job, that is such a plus. You are a wonderful fabulous person! Repeat that!
