I don't get it!! I always thank him, but had been extra appreciative when he has done other things for me lately. Is this one of his needs? "Appreciation?" I remember reading an e-mail he sent to OW about 3 weeks into their A and she had mentioned something about her wiper blades needing to be replaced. He was so quick to go to the auto parts store and replace and wash her car, it made me mad because at the time, we had a lamp that need to be fixed and a new filter put in our water purifier that he had put off for weeks.
This must be a love language of his.
Faith
Well, Words of Affirmation is a love language and it might be his. The only way to really tell (I think) is to examine your past interactions. Have you nagged or asked repeatedly to have things done around the house and it fell on deaf ears? At that point in time were your conversations more about what he could do for you or about what you wanted done in the house? I'm assuming that now (and for the past 12 weeks), you are making a big deal out of any little thing he does. If that's the case, and you weren't doing it in the past, then you just found his love language and the way to get him to keep doing things is to keep praising all the time and in a big way - make a big deal out of everything he does that is positive. Contrarily, say nothing about the bad behavior and theoretically it will go away because he's not getting a reaction from you about it.
It could also be guilt, but the fact that he was willing to do something for the OW makes me think that she's really good with words of affirmation and that is why he did it for her.
I think my H is words of affirmation and I struggle, struggle, struggle with that because I am not a cheerleader by any stretch of the imagination and the OW is - all the time! Tough stuff to compete with!
You seem to be doing really well! Em
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
