I feel that I have broken the codependency. I don't need him in my life to find happiness, but I do still want him very much. I think that there is the potential to build a wonderful, interdependent R/M with him after all we've been through.
Donna, This is sell said, but incomplete. I get the feeling that you need this separation more than he does. I think that a year from now, if you keep to the DB principles, your self-confidence will be sky high. You will have had the chance to really find out who you are and what you want out of life. To define yourself independently from your H or any other person, just Donna.
I also think that a year from now your H will be out of the relationship with CW and just beginning to assess the real causes of his unhappiness. He will find you very attractive and will be ridden with guilt and a profound sense of opportunity lost.
If you are still available at this time, you will have a decision to make. That is a long way off and there is a journey that you need to go on before you will be ready for that decision. Embrace the challenges that life has placed before you. They are put their to make you into the person that you can and will become. (this is for me too!)
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Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
