Yay for S5! He just wanted to brag about it in Kindergarten!!! hehe Man, you said you didn't go to the gym, but you definately worked out. I trained my niece on 2 wheels and hurt for days!
"what I don't want is for me to end up divorced and miserable, or for us to reconcile, but never really get past our issues, and never have a good relationship again. those two things are scary as hell to me. really scary. so I need to work on making sure that no matter what happens, I am happy and fulfilled. its all I can do"
Um, ok, I never thought of this way. I knew I wanted to try with H, but never thought about it, hard. Scary. I know my H is scared of the 2nd one (being fine for a year, then things getting bad again).
Without responding to everything you have posted today, I will just make a quick comment. You talk to him to much, don't let him say or do things to piss you off, like the cookies If he thinks he is doing the right thing, let him think that, he will find out how wrong he is, and then he may start to realize what is going on !
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
have a great night, too. and yeah, there is no easy anymore...its all going to be hard, no matter what happens. I just want to say that it was worth it in the end. that my life is what I want it to be, and that I am truly happy.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
ha! 789, I knew you would end up back on this thread looking for cookies. hehehe. j/k
yep, I have talked to him too much the last couple of days...enough. and I've said that. I'm going to just let him be. we'll talk kid stuff when he calls, but no personal stuff. he comes by to spend time with them tomorrow and I'm already planning on heading out while he's here.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
atgo, the thing is, I will not be 2nd best, I never will be. he will either want me, for real, and w/o hesitation, or he won't. but he won't get me and pine for her. it won't happen. I won't just have him to have him. nope. not gonna do it.
doesn't mean there can't be reconciliation. just means a lot has to happen between now and then.
but again, honestly, i don't expect it to happen, and I'm not going to live like I do anymore. I'm just going to live my life. I'm going to be me, and I deserve a hell of a lot more than I've been getting. the next man in my life, either my h or some other man, is going to be damn lucky to have me, but is also going to have to show me he's worth having me.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I am sorry I misprinted that site was called Smart Marriage not Marriage Builders. Anywho, it did state that an indicator of a successful reconciliation after an affair is the amount of remorse the WS shows when the LBS acts crazy and obsessive about needing to know details about the affair! Well, then that must be why we are in this land called limbo because that remorse stick has not hit our Spouses. That sense of entitlement is not a very good indicator and we need to understand that. I am pretty torn up about the amount of sympathy I get from a perfect stranger and not even a hug or tear from my own H and Best Friend of my whole life. At least your H feels remorse and dread and that is a very good indicator for reconciliation.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
