Hi Confuzed - I don't have much time to post but I would thouroughly recommend getting the book "the Divorce Remedy" (don't get "Divorce Busting" - DR is more up to date.
Read it cover to cvoer, then read it again a few more times carefully.

I will asmit I've only skip read your posts (sorry! it's late) but I KNOW how awful those first few weeks are when your heart has been ripped out and it seems the theme tune to your life is "The Twighlight Zone". Reading the book gave me somethign to work on, a framework, instead of me thrashing about blindly, it (and the wonderful folks here too) taught me patience, persistence, and above all acceptance. Let go of all you fear to lose including fear itself. Then go from there. And DON'T PANIC!!! \:\) \:\) \:\)

Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05
Seperated Sept/Oct 05
Oct 06 - H recomitted
July 11 - I am now a WAW.