He will hit rock bottom when he realises what he has done, that I am sure of (just like my W).
They always think the grass is greener on the other side. Their R will change once there is closure. Without the drama, and attention from the LBS, the OP's will soon realise that maybe they too have made a mistake, and the R will eventually fizzle.
Every sitch has a common denominator. That is that our S's will hit rock bottom, maybe not now but eventually. Once the realisation sets in on what they have done and what they have lost. Also all the misdemeanours that we have been blamed for will pale into insignificance when they start to remember all the good things that happened in their M. And they start to remember our exceptional qualities.
You will move on and be happy regardless of the outcome. Time heals everything. You will become stronger, wiser and happier, believe me. I have been getting to a better place emotionally with each day. I can see myself (like you) having a great life with or without our S's.
They say that in a lifetime we go through 3 serious relationships. Maybe this one was really not meant to be, we don't know.
