Hi Ophelia. Did I mention I did contact the OW? I am quite sure they have actually BONDED over it. I am sure it was upsetting and scary for her and he had to console her over me being the Big Bad Wolf at 5'4! It was stupid and I guess I thought I would let her know we were still married folks, maybe it would be a wake up call that H betrayed an entire communty and family not just me! This page REALLY has helped me to demystify the sitch. Please read it in case you have not.