How do you resist contacting the OP?

[Ophelia]

Ophelia, I read your thread over in separated, but the last time you updated was quite awhile ago. Whatever happened w/ the email/legal paper deal?

I've since started a new thread back here on Infidelity: Just found out OW has a kid.
His reply to the email basically said that he was glad I'd gotten the M certificate back. Apologised for not have replied to my last email but said he'd been really busy at work. Said he hoped I'd sorted out my sleeping patterns, (which is what I'd contributed some of my depression to in my previous email). And said that his knee injury wasn't too severe, but he'd changed the dates for his trip to Africa, (which is now costing him a heap more, so God only knows how he's gonna pay for it), now including a safari for after his Kilimanjaro climb because if he doesn't make it to the summit with his dodgy knee, at least the safari will cheer him up.

I replied to that email, but haven't heard back.

I posted the legal forms about a week ago, even though I didn't really want to.

Why would she care....she's never been married, was getting what she wanted and didn't know what it felt like to have her heart ripped out.

The baffling thing in my sitch is that the OW has been through a D herself. It must have been a blissful experience if she's happily encouraging another couple, one of whom is the man she now loves, to endure the same thing.

Trust me, it's taking everything I have this time not to call her. I know that contacting her would completely blow any and all communication & relationship that we have.

I'd find it damn near impossible to resist as well, SueS. It's bad enough in my own sitch, but if I actually knew OW, I'd be going out of my mind wanting to tell her in no uncertain terms to back off!

[mkultra]

Hi Ophelia. Did I mention I did contact the OW? I am quite sure they have actually BONDED over it. I am sure it was upsetting and scary for her and he had to console her over me being the Big Bad Wolf at 5'4! It was stupid and I guess I thought I would let her know we were still married folks, maybe it would be a wake up call that H betrayed an entire communty and family not just me! This page REALLY has helped me to demystify the sitch. Please read it in case you have not.

Glass Marriage Infidelity

[ACJ]

M,
Thank you for that link it is very interesting. As I was reading it I even considered sending it to my H but as he is still idealising the OW I don't think there is any point. I have book marked it just in case my miracle happens though.

[mkultra]

HaHa! I thought about forwarding parts of it too, but of course I won't. But I thought I could leave it lying around or on the computer background! I am glad it will help know that these infidelities have had indicators and that there are ways to maybe cheat-proof a marriage.