Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

and I repeat what I said about "1-2 days".
peoples' minds can be more easily changed, before their behaviour becomes a habit, or expected by themselves.
it takes 1-2 weeks for something to become a habit.

That is so depressing to me. But, so be it. I told him he would have to court me and I'm not going back on that.For once, I am NOT going to wimp out. If he can't find a reason to make it worth his while, then it was hopeless anyway.

In my case part of why I DID continue the sex was that it was a problem for a long time in our M and I wanted to "show" H that really, the problem (health related) WAS fixed and we could in fact have a normal healthy sex life.

Yeah, that is the least of our concerns. He already knows we have a good sexual relationship. It's outside the bedroom that he seeks something.

About the asking him to take you out riding - maybe you can do a little of both. Arrange to go with your friends, and then invite him to go if he'd like. Be prepared not to get upset if he says no - if he says yes, you could always ask for a ride with him either now, or when the time comes.

All of this would work FABULOUS if we actually *owned* a bike. Unfortunately, one would need to be rented (which means planning ahead). Also, if I "invited" him, that would mean that I had already arranged to ride on the back of someone else's bike; and then all of sudden I ride on the back of whatever he rented? And if I don't, how weird would that be? (Hope I am making some sense here.) I think having to plan ahead (in the great north"wet") at the end of summer...eh. screw it.

I am just feeling like if I GAL, I don't need to invite him into it. He already knows that I don't want this. I am not the one leaving. I am not the one rejecting him. I am not the one doing ALL the things HE suggested, but withOUT HIM. He rejected my movie invite (way back), he just rejected me as far as sex goes, (even though I didn't ask), he just rejected me as far as dating goes (wants to feel like we're over.)
How many more beatings do I need?