Donna - sorry to "barge in" for a minute but thought it'd be a good place to find Oldtimer.

Oldtimer - I know you have to really limit the sitches you follow here, but if you have time would you mind looking in on Agent99?? She reminds me of me (but with a stronger sense of her boundaries ;\) ), and she's getting some really conflicting advice. I'd be curious to hear your take, and think it would be helpful to her. Here's
Agent99's thread

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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