Think about the realization you had about how many people in your neighborhood were D. They are all OK and they all have friends and families.
I believe that H will keep the kids in his life. Family rifts heal. Friendships survive. New friendships are built. H will be OK. H is a big boy and he wants to make his life vastly different than it has been. He will flounder along the way. But he will wind up OK in the end.
You don't need the drama of forecasting disaster and neverending misery for H. You *really* don't need it. You will be OK without it. Let H be. He will be OK too.
