Larry - haven't checked in for awhile, sounds like you're hanging in there.

I am still working on this concept myself, but Oldtimer and others have told me that in a healthy M, you are BOTH detached to a degree. You love each other, choose each other, but don't NEED each other and that's the key.

(am I there yet? no... but it is definitely part of DBing to get there)

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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