(cemar) There are lots of things that can make a person happy. THe problem is that NONE of them can REPLACE what is missing.
Not long ago I would have agreed with you completely. Now...I don't know. The thing I was most into in my marriage was the sex. That's where I most invested time, emotions and even money on my stbx. Sex was very VERY important to me. More than once I told her I'd leave if the sex stopped and I meant it (at least I did at the time) and she believed me.
But now I'm de facto single, I'm not currently involved with anybody and it's been months since I've had sex. For a while I was very concerned about where my next fix was going to come from but now, particularly since reading NMMNG, it's not such an overriding concern. Sex seems more like icing in my life and less like cake. So I'm thinking that other things CAN replace what's missing. I sure would like to have sex again some day but as I said in an earlier post, I wouldn't trade all the other things that make me happy for daily hot sex.
And the worst part is that you are constantly reminded of this fact.
Agreed. If you find other interesting stuff to make your life out of, though, you'll be reminded less often than "constantly."
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