I remember how upset I felt when my H went on a 9-day cruise in the Bahamas with a group of guys after we first started piecing. Neither of us had ever been on a cruise and it really upset me because I wanted that to be a memory we could share together (our first cruise!). Also, I had all these visions of them meeting women, dancing and drinking on the ship, etc...
Even worse, when he did go he had no phone service there!!! So for 9 days he was on a cruise and we had no contact!!!!
I was pretty upset. The only thing that helped was GALing. I just kind of did the same things I did during the separation/divorce and tried to enjoy my life.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
