Maybe her actions are not entitlement driven but fear driven. They are fear driven70% and entitlement 30% issues.
Why shouldn’t BB do 40% of the work and not take 80% if you let her? This is not her problem. This is yours. Typical NMMNG unwritten contract, "If I do more, they will do more." And there is the idea "you catch more flies with sugar."
In real life, the child/adult gets to expect more.
So, lately, most of the time I don't do as much for BB. I see she misses the attention but I also see her withdrawing. I am set on doing a minimum, no matter what happens.
I don't want our R to end up like Chocs, where BB thinks she has to go outside the R to get what she needs. I will say her pets play a miniature version of the OM/best friend, which is a support system to BB. It looks like I have to pull back to almost nothing in order for her to do much more.
I voice my opinion's about her attachment to the pets and how they are a substitute for people contact. She is convinced pets are better friends than people.
So much for "What makes Lou Happy" that does not require OP.
I think I better get back on track on this thread and do the personal/SO R ideas on my other thread.
