ps--OT, I emailed him the reminder about court because I was required to notify him of making the marking. I included a line in an email about kid stuff:
"The pendente lite motion is being heard on Monday."
I printed a copy and included it for the court records that he was informed.
Oh, I did stop by the bank and open my own checking account yesterday. It cannot be accessed by him at all. I am not mentioning it to him until he notices the $500 missing from the main checking acct. After all my checks clear and I get the new debit card on Thursday, I will transfer the rest over. We can keep the joint one as the go-between.
I was too nice today and beeped him quick--when I opened the bank records today, it showed that he was overdrawn by $150. I called him to let him know, and he asked if I was still logged on--could I please transfer $500 into his account from savings to cover it? He'll pay it back, he said. Sure... He did pay a bunch of the house bills this month from his acct, so I was ok with it. But we do have to get this completely separate in the very near future.
