I also think that I need to be careful of my 180s. Since his first assumption was I was avoiding him (good call on his part since that was part of my motivation), he will probably believe that any 180s I do are reactionary and not self motivated.
GREAT that you see this, Agent99.
I did so many 180s at first (all reactionary) that I think H thought I lost my mind. He said something about it seeming like I was "scrambling" to fix everything that has been wrong, and he didn't like it, it came across as a ploy to get him back more than real changes. Now, the real ones have stuck and the others (that weren't "me") have gone by the wayside... but I sure wasted a lot of energy on reactionary 180s.
Why can't you rent a motorcycle and go on a road trip?
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
