My biggest repeating thought is “Why isn’t what I do for us and what we have enough. Why does she want 80% of the goodies from life while she usually is only willing to do 40% of the work.
Why would you take a job where you have to do half the work for the same pay? Because they offer it and you can take it. Why shouldn’t BB do 40% of the work and not take 80% if you let her? This is not her problem. This is yours.
I also wonder if BB is in a continual state of “nesting,” trying to build up more and more stuff to calm her fears of losing you and one day doing without. Maybe her actions are not entitlement driven but fear driven.
You're attached to BB, but it's like the little chimp in the experiment who clung to the false mother made of wire and fur... I never thought of it quite like that. I will say that is a good analogy of our R a couple of years ago, some fur on wire frames.
I’m not sure if you caught Lil’s message because you focused on “some fur on wire frames.” You do understand she is talking about YOUR fear and neediness that causes you to cling, not just the scarcity of what BB offers.
