If you didn't get over the hump but just enjoyed the quite good feelings for quite a long time who would be more upset, you or her?
Interesting question, and I think the answer is not easy. I would be mildly upset because of the "blue balls" I would feel, but it would not detract from the enjoyment of the experience. For example, last night I got some MAJOR love bank deposits when I did NOTHING to initiate and she went a little crazy on me. I did have the thought that I HAD to O because of the effort she was putting into it. So when it became obvious to me that after about 20 minutes of her working on me, and I could sense a little flagging in her physical efforts (perhaps I misinterpreted or it was projection or expectation from the past?), I allowed myself to slip into the fantasy and got over the hump fairly quickly. Anyway, just the fact that she initiated and took charge of pleasuring me was FANTASTIC. The O was actually a bit of a let down because it signaled the end. Well, I moved quickly to pleasuring her, which is always very satisfying. She even asked me for a specific thing which she hardly ever does and that was mentally satisfying as well.
As far as her frame of mind if I didn't O, I can't be sure. It has only happened a few times in our M, always due to some external factor (for example I haven't been able to O with a condom on because they don't make them big enough [and that is NOT bragging btw]) so it might be a bit shocking to her, and she might personalize. I wonder if part of my reaction is a fear of her personalizing, and that fear could be distracting me from fullying enjoying, and maybe even be the cause of my iniability to O.
OK, I think I'm rambling now. Does that answer your question?
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
