Having someone at the courthouse with you is not trying to fix him. It is merely having someone there to bear witness to his actions that will, perhaps, make him more accountable.
But, DO NOT tell him ANY of your court related plans. DO NOT threaten him with a L. Either take one or not. He does not need to know your strategy in advance. This is a business game of battleship. Keep your ships secret. No more friendly EMAIL reminders about things either. You DO NOT need to help him promote his own agenda.
Drop it ALL. Get your hands off H's life.
COURT BUSINESS ONLY.
Be clear on what a good deal is financially, and if a good deal is on the table on Monday, SNAP IT UP. If a good deal is not on the table, then dig in your heels and negotiate. Exploit the OW no-contact thing as a bargaining chip. I say this, because truthfully, I don't think any court is going to back you up on what you want. So, you may as well ACT like it is a real bargaining chip and get something with it. Something is better than nothing.
