I think I get it. Corri is trying to teach us how to create our own happiness. Once we got that, it is up to our spouse to join in or not, but whether s/he does or not doesn't affect that core happiness. It is one derived from your own self rather than from the actions of others. If you can get through that disconnect and see your spouse as someone with a free will to join you in whatever makes you happy rather than being the reason you are happy then you will be happy regardless. I get it. The hard part, I think, is figuring out what makes you happy (I'm certainly struggling with it, mostly because it is something I have never even thought a little bit about in as long as I can remember). It requires a complete paradigm change in your thinking.
Yeah, yeah, I know, I still have to answer the questions Extra credit only applies if I do the assignment!
Actually, I am considering asking the same questions to S17, as well as to MrsGGB. S17, because he says our house is a "Hellhole" that we don't let him do what he wants, put too many demands on him, etc...what we see though is that he puts all his happiness in other people (gosh, why is it so obvious from the other side of the fence?). MrsGGB, because from what I can tell, she's lost herself to being Mom and Wife, and no longer knows who MrsGGB is. Looking at myself, I see I've also lost myself, perhaps not to the same degree (Ha, I had to throw that in, I know it is a matter of perspective). I'll wait until I get it figured out for myself though. No sense for more blind leading the blind (hee hee, didn't even realize the pun on my screen name there until after I posted)
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