Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

Regarding the "possibly" missing motorcycle gear, first look around and make sure that's where they were. Second, check your calendar and see when the next time is that you are going to need them. Third, send him a text up to one week before the date you need them to tell him you can't find them and does he know where they are.

heh- guess I need to find some hunky guy with a motorcycle. I can't ride by myself. (ie, i can't decide to go on a road trip using a rented cycle.) Boo!
And I am 95% sure he took the box and helmets, but, there is a small chance it's been moved. I will make sure before i look stupid.

Yes, I know you don't own a motorcycle. My point is, you have no reason to be looking for that stuff. He may very well be testing you to see if you are checking up on his activities. You didn't rise to the bait on the camping stuff, so now he's trying this. Don't give him the satisfaction.

good enough. he made it so obvious he was in the cabinet; one of the ladder feet was smashing one of the shoes I wear all the time. Dork.

As for the opinion of the divorce support group, I would tend to concur. He is just doing a more thorough job of preserving his options than most wayward spouses are capable of.

Yeah. I guess I hold out some weird thought that if he really wanted to make sure we felt broken up, all he would have to do is say he was seeing someone. That would pretty much take care of that.