Are we piecing yet?

[Have Faith]

lwb, my H doesn't read much either, but back in April I gave him the book to read just one chapter. He said that he needed to understand what he was doing and therefore decided to read the whole book. I was shocked, but I saw it as a positive.

EM, I did find the article once I clicked on Affairs, but thank you for sharing the information. I found some of the statistics very interesting (especially that 70% of affairs do not end in a divorce). There was another website mentioned, DearPeggy.com that looked interesting.

You had a very interesting question. "You recognized that you didn't handle that stich the best way you think you could have, but now is the best time to plan how you are going to handle that if it happens again. What will that interaction look like?" This is something that I'm going to think about. I need to plan for this, as I'm sure it will happen again. Thank you for that thought provoking question.

Trytingtoholdon - I can appreciate what you say about setting boundaries and not giving into them. I have done that b/4 and I'm determined not to do that again. You also might be right about me chasing him. I'm not really sure. If anything, I appear to always be there for him. I don't usually call him or e-mail him. Over the last 12 weeks we have spent a tremendous amount of time together. We do not fight and we are not nasty with each other (except maybe in my last outburst). We both agree that we have really enjoyed each others company. I don't think that a 180 would be good right now. I just don't know. I have some more sessions available with the DB coach, Jodi, maybe it is time to take advantage of one of those again.

I'm in better spirts today. I'm going to the gym tonight and then over to a girlfriends after that, so I guess I will be out GALing.

Thank you everyone for your input.

Faith