I believe you're right about the fear that the life line will be cut. Human nature to want the LBS waiting safely on the shelf while the WAS determines if they're making the right decision. I would choose that myself, if I was in those shoes.
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I also think they panic if they think we may be thinking of terminating the gift of time
It's all very understandable to me, which is why I don't spend a lot of time beating up the WAS or the OW. That's not to say I enjoy it, it just is.
When Michele says the WAS believes they know you, I think when they see the LBS make changes they're not expecting, it does cause them to wonder if they're looking at their choices correctly.
For whatever reasons, I went from a fun loving, outgoing person, to someone who had a hard time having even a kids B-Day party. For my S4's in March, I just couldn't get myself to plan a party for him & ended up inviting a few neighborhood kids over at the last minute. The more my H looked at me with that "what is wrong with you" look, the more I withdrew, until I avoided him completely.
The beauty of all I've gotten from DB, is that I don't need to figure out first what led me there. By hosting a party for myself, with the guest list @ around 50, I'm able to go through my fears, not around them & "unstick" myself. There will be time later to noodle on what got me to that place, yes?
So, I can see why my H is a little thrown off. Maybe he's picturing himself alone with the OW while I'm enjoying my party with everyone in my(our) beautiful home. In anycase, it's one of many 180's that needed to happen for me. I'm not doing it for a reaction from him, b/c, afterall, he could get so miffed by not being invited that he goes even further away. That's for him to decide.
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IF u have chance take a look at my last post you will see all my drama from last nite.
Hey Chicki,
Luckily there's not much drama in my sitch. I try & steer clear of it completely, as it takes on a life of it's own. I don't know if you ever saw the movie "War of the Roses". Pretty scary how things can escalate out of control, until the R is pretty much a footnote with no growing/reconciliation going on. Hopefully you guys can work away from that, I know how stressful it must be. Thanks for stopping by & I'll check out what's happening with you today.
