My penance...

[Steel_Box]

Pro Wife,
relating back to our previous discussion.

The more you tell me, the more concerned I am. I worry that the affair possibly never ended. There was a point where I reverted to keeping my affair a secret while supposedly returning to my husband. While I hate to give you more worries, be careful. No one wants to be played a fool once, but twice is more hurt than anyone deserves. If it walks like a duck, and it quacks like a duck...you get the picture.

You mentioned that there was a period that you tried to revert back to keeping the affair a secret. Was this a conscious thing that you were trying to try and have both, or was it that you were trying to work on R with husband but couldn't quite let go of OM?

I believe that I have a duck, and am tying to decide whether to dig a pond and hope the duck stays or bring out the dog and go Duck hunting.

Did your husband confront you about your trying to go back to a secret, or not? If he did not, do you think it would have been effective for him to do so?

I realize that my interactions with my W have gotten better, and like I have said previously, I can see attempts to work on things. But, I question if it is all just a front to cover things back up. I don't want to continue like this if she is trying to go back to having both. I want my wife, but I am not willing to share her.

Thanks in advance for your help.
Steel

PS: Although being on the other side of the fence, I don't quite understand why you would have any contact with your XOM, don't let Snakes bother you he has been bitter lately and appears to be trying to pick a fight.