Trying to set those goals!

[Trixi]

So, the reality of the camping thing is that he accepted an invite to a buddy's cabin. That's a whole lot less work than planning a camping trip with your S--especially if there is strain in the R and pressure to make it "memorable."

Hmmm...that's true. Never looked at it that way.

The support group was good. The only "bad' thing was that when I said that he wasn't having an affair, that he just left because "something" was missing, the whole room rumbled. People shaking their heads. One gal says that she heard all the same things from her husband (there's no one else, you're awesome, etc), and a year later she finds out he'd been having an affair. She was totally shocked.

Part of me wants to hire a PI to find out, just so I can understand, but the other part of me says not to waste the $$. I'll stick with the saving money thing for now.

So, here is my newest question-
When I got home, he had moved a ladder to get into a cabinet. I was curious, so I looked in the cabinet and I *believe* that a box that has the leather chaps and stuff for motorcycle riding is gone. My chaps are in there. I don't want him to have my motorcycle stuff. If I should meet anyone else that rides, I want to be able to go. (side note- if he is going motorcycle riding, too....ARGH!!!!!!!!! I had been suggesting since the winter that we needed to go riding this summer.GRRRRRRRRRRRR...Really really ticks me off that NOW he is doing these things.)

Anyway-I want to ask him if he took that box and if my chaps are in there because I want them back; but I don't want it to look like I'm "spying" or something because I checked in the cabinet to see what was missing.

Suggestions?