I definitely agree with most of what you said, but I did want to point out
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Cemar, it isn't about the desire for sex. Sex drive is not directly corelated with being affectionate, flirtatious, loving, emotionally generous, fitb.
In my case, it was ... but it was 50% my fault. Because my W and I were distant, whenever she was affectionate I would "pounce" on her. I saw this as an opportunity to get the sex that I craved. But since my W had a low sex drive at the time, she began to avoid affection, flirting, etc. So in a sense, the lack of desire for sex (that I would likely pursue if she was affectionate) DID affect her playfulness, flirtation, etc. I know its not exactly what you are talking about, but there may be something like this going on with CeMar. It has taken me awhile to separate affection from sex in her mind, and I had to do it in my mind first. She is still not particularly playful, but the situation is improving.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
