Hey H

Sounds like you have a new perspective about all of this. I think it was on CVA's thread that you said "not bad just different" an I think that its great that you are detaching and not letting the W & impending actions sour you. Seems like you have a whole new outlook on things. I think this is a real big step for you and it will be hard for W to miss this new & improved H.

I did find some amusement in the bed convo with your W. I also got a full size bed, not queen for the exact same reasons a) where the hell will all my stuff go and b) I am going to be the only one in it!

And, yes for the record I think your W feels very guilty about the OM and wants you to move on so she can feel less guilty about her actions. Maybe she does want you to be happy as well. But I def think at this point its more about evening the playing field and easing her own mind. ***only think this as one of my cousins had an affair on her H a while back and she kept telling him to go out and have some fun to even the score. was never about him, was all about her and not wanting him to have something to hold over her head.*** I don't know your wife but thats JMHO.


Me: 30
EX-H: 37
DD: 5
Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC.
Divorce Final 8/14/08.
Trying to move on with new life.