Get me on a smoother ride........Need Advice

[SueS]

Good morning-

Husband & Cadesmom......again.....thanks so much for the replies. I'd love to know what your threads are so I can get on & start supporting you too.

Last night was good. H got home from work on time & made dinner. He's the cook in our house. I hung out in the kitchen while he cooked and just talked to him.....about work, our D, a concert that we want to go to, the wedding this weekend...etc. I casually mentioned to H how I wanted to buy new glasses & how a friend of mine had given me a gift cert. for hightlights...that she couldn't use. It was nice. After dinner I did a few things around the house while he played a board game with our D. He is a great dad. I got our D in bed (thankfully she's now going to bed by herself, so there's not that tension of me spending hours trying to get her to sleep or her fighting us to stay up). We have this futon mattress on the floor in our den & he was laying on it. He'd been talking about how tired he was and how he probably wasn't going to go work out. Bonus again, because that's when he usually talks to OW. I asked him if he wanted me to rub his back. He said....if you want to. Of course I did!! As I was rubbing it, he fell asleep. I finished picking up the house. I tried to wake him up and tell him to go to bed. He said he'd be there soon. I woke up about 2:00 am and he was up on the computer. I got up and got a drink of water & didn't say anything to him. Right after I got back into bed, he got in too. He tossed & turned. I asked him what was wrong. He just said.....after I woke up on the futon, I just can't get back to sleep. Eventually he laid back down. He didn't hug his side of the bed this time, actually he laid closer to me. It was a chilly night (rain) so I put my arm around him. He didn't turn or pull away. He eventually laid on his back & let me rub his chest until I had to get up for work. Cadesmom......I would have taken more advantage of the situation, but for us ladies.....that has to wait a few days. Sorry if that's TMI for Husband.

So, it was a nice night. A positive day. No calls that I could see from OW.....for 2 days/nights now. He could have deleted the calls, but I'd like to think that they didn't talk. It's a happier thought. Let's hope that this keeps going. He'll be home at 9:30 tonight, so this could be a night that he works out and talks to her on the phone while he's at the gym. If so, that's fine. I've decided not to say anything about it. I'm just going to keep working on me.

Thanks for listening!!