Where I see the value of a partnership, as with the Golden Rule, or differentiation... IS the fact that we are not all 100% differentiated. But if you are in any kind of R where someone has a real solid sense of it, and practices it... you will see your own attempts at fusion when you do it, and you see it pretty quickly. The vulnerability and intimacy comes in when you claim your own behavior, adjust course, and watch as the other person doesn't bash you and trash you for it. They just stand there and smile at you for 'getting it.' And, you'll do the same for them.
That is the coolest feeling in the world.
If you are with another person who doesn't really get it, or has never really heard of it, the act of you practicing it to the best of your abilities, will get their attention and respect. They will begin to mirror your behavior. But as with everything in the world, there are some people who will never get it, simply because their wounds are too deep.
Then you can decide what you want to do. If you leave, however, it isn't to 'get back' at the other person somehow. It really has nothing to do with them at all. It is simply a decision you made that is best for you.
