Now that you've made a commitment to work on things, it's time to get down to business. I read that "piece of crap" you were talking about in your other thread. It's pretty good...there are some nuggets in there. I would also recommend the "5 Love Languages" and "After the Affair." Each book has their own exercises to help determine what each partner needs.
The two things I've discovered through all of this crap is that "listening" and "patience" are paramount. Combining these two things both prevents silly arguments and allows one to figure out what one's partner really needs. Too bad it took me 33 years to figure it out!
