I agree, I think that would be hard to actually go through the whole D process and then have her all of a sudden change her mind and expect you to come running. HOWEVER, like w/ my H cheating, and numerous times I might add, I always said "you cheat, you're gone" and I'm still here. You never know how you will truly react or feel in a sitch until it really happens.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10